SOUL WHISPERS

You’ve Been Reading My Soul
Do You Like What You Read?
In Your Mind, Your Spirit, Your Soul
My Spirit Won’t Set Me Free
Because It’s You Alone I See, I Feel
In My Mind, My Spirit, My Soul
You Keep Whispering In My Soul
Is It Your Warm Breath That I Feel,
Or Is It My Heart You Just Steal?

You Have Been Reading My Soul
Do You Like What You Read?
I’m Here Waiting For You To Take The Lead
I Can Sense You With Me Here
I Can Feel You Near Me, I Feel No Fear
I Am Hearing Your Soul Whisper
Is It Me That You Seek After?

Honey I Can Read Your Soul
I Can Sense You, I Can Feel You
Coming Into My Time And My Space
I Can See Beyond Your Face
I Can Feel Your Soul Embrace
Your Soul Vibration, Your Powerful Aura
So Well, We Know Each Other
I Love What Your Soul Whispers To Me
Our Soul Whispers; A Beautiful, Beautiful Whisper

Written by Donique C Perez Copyright © 2010/01/29 All rights Reserved

THINK TWICE

This poem is as real as can be for many. One can be caught up with lustful intentions, straying eyes, infidelity and infatuation sometimes win and create broken relationships. Sometimes not meant to last but to satisfy lustful cravings but yet it’s intention is to be selfish with one’s needs because many times the innocent party who one may have ‘at home’ is left with a broken heart and sometimes bitter feelings.

Simply because one falls prey to one’s weakness, temptation and lustful infatuations wanting to be fulfilled by another. You must think before you act, the long term consequences one endure, for a short term infatuation and temptation is not worth it….

Friends it happens everyday….The poem is unisex:) despite the female overtone

I Look At You
You Look At Me
So Lustfully, So Enticingly
We Know It’s Such A Magnetic Fantasy
We Both Want To Fulfill In Ecstasy

I Know I’m A Sweet Temptation
And You Are Weakening My Inhibitions
But Is It Really Worth The Price?
I Beg Of You To Think Twice

It’s Only A Moment Of Our Lustful Intentions
To Quench Our Thirst, Our Infatuations
She’s Waiting For You At Home
I Beg Of You Please Leave Me Alone

Are You Aware Of Your Intended Fate?
I’ll Feel Guilty If I Fall For Your Bait
Go On Home To Your Partner And Wife
Avoid Creating Rifts And Strife

Written by Donique C. Perez Copyright 2010/02/02 All Rights Reserved

CAN YOU SURVIVE?

It takes a strong person/mind to survive crisis in our lives,; the will to go on and triumph despite what life may throw at you or situation you may have created/placed in your life.

Some assume as long as they have a comfortable home, job or great bank account or even great health, you are good to go; almost invincible. Sometimes we may have all these things, most people aim for all these criteria, to make us feel good about ourselves; worthy, and sometimes the inevitable happens. Some may say that bad things tend to happen to them on time but never good.

We sometimes base our worthiness on material gains. Life is full of complexities; things happen when we least expect them to or ever imagine. Live every moment joyfully, so that even when things around you crumble, you were not waiting for a particular moment to enjoy it/life – but were doing it all the while….bit by bit, moment by moment…

Be appreciative, thankful, caring, kind and share with others because you may never know when you may need someone else’s help or kindness. Live life, enjoy life and have no regrets….Our survival of any kind depends on our thinking/mindset. It determines how well we will be able to ride the sometimes rough waves/patches in/of life. Think positive always….Tough times never last if you know how to rise above them..

If Today You Were To Be Stripped Bare
Stripped Clean Of Your Material Wealth
You’ve Created Throughout The Years
Your Physical Decorations And Additives
Things That You Believe
Is Your Identity, Your Comfortability
Would You Survive Yourself,
This World, Your World
Can You Survive Your World?

If Today You Were Stripped
Of All The Things
That Made Your Life Comfortable
The Simple Things
Yet Necessary Things That Keep You Stable
Like Your Job, Your Home, Your Security
Things Taken For Granted By You And Me
Would You Survive Your World
Can You Survive Your World?

Would You Survive
Without Friends, Your Dignity
And Stand By Your Philosophy
That You Have An Identity
Engraved In Your Heart
And Not On Your Face Or Your Past
Or External Appearance Or Circumstance?
Or The Amount Of Money In Your Hand
Would You Survive Your World
Can You Survive Your World?

Can You Survive
With Your Created Illusion
That You Are No One
Without Those Identities
That You Are Judged On
Your Stand In Society
Would You Be Able To Keep Your Sanity
And Live Above Mediocrity, In Your Mind
Because We All Stand A High Possibility
That Our Lives Can Be Changed In An Instant
No Matter How Well We May Have Planned
Sometimes Life Can Play You A Different Hand
Would You Survive Your World
Can You Survive Your World?

Would You Survive This World, Your World?

Written by Donique C Perez Copyright © 2010/01/29 All rights Reserved

WHY DO I?

Why Do I
Want You
Need You,
To Be With Me
So Longingly
So Passionately
You Weaken And
Soften My Cold And Broken Heart
To Mushy And Delightful Feeling
I Can’t Seem To Hide

Why Do I
Let You
Control Me
You Calm
Yet Explode
My Unquenchable Desires
My Temptation
To Be With You
Is Only For You
And With You
I Long To Be
To Hold Me
To Please Me
To Tease Me

Why Do I
Let You
Hypnotize Me
Tranquilize Me
Yes You Sedate Me
The Melody That I Feel
Of Your Vibrations
Coming From Deep
Within Your Soul
Your Love Vibration
Is Pure Temptation
I Am Weak To You
So Willingly, So Lovingly
Why Do I Let You
Melt Me

Written by Donique C Perez Copyright © 2010/01/28 All rights deserved

WE ARE NOTHING WITHOUT EACH OTHER

What does independence really mean to you, are we really independent or is it that because we believe that we can spend our own money, have our own home etc- therefore we are independent?…

Sometimes we brag and say that we are independent. The ‘I’m my own man/woman’,..I don’t need this or that or another person’s help because you can survive single-handedly or on your own and have your own—A powerful statement, isn’t it? Huh–Even the most powerful/wealthiest person need the services of me and you to survive or his empire will crash.

You may have set aside retirement funds to survive in your latter days/years or you may have a business that works for you or even have a job – irregardless of those, you must be employed by someone who depends on others to purchase their service so that you can be paid. No business can survive without customers.

Even the self-employed person without customers is useless, the pensioner who may have put aside funds depends on the legitimacy of that company to pay him and if that company goes bankrupt he will feel useless/hopeless as his happiness is determined by someone/thing.

Even at retirement age when one may assume independence because they may have provided for their future, you still need the services of the supermarket to buy your food, probably a cleaner, errands person, etc, probably you may fall sick and need the services of the doctor or you’d get worse, everything/one is important around us, we are not totally independent, we must co-exist to survive.

Friends we are nothing without each other, we are all dependent on each other for survival–no man is an island– you might be able to stand alone for a while but never forever– we believe that we are living in our own world – our box – our families/friends and that’s all we need to get by but if you don’t have a job – you don’t get by unless you get hand-outs by someone/govt – you depend on ’someone/system’ – your livelihood depends on someone/thing – if you don’t work, you can’t pay your bills to survive – food, domestic utilities etc- we are co-dependents; we have to co-exist or will self-destruct.

We sometimes see what loneliness/aloneness do to one for over a prolonged time; I am not talking about time to meditate but distancing oneself from mankind:) probably due to unkindness from someone and you just shut off the whole world, Your heart needs to talk to another heart, be it God or another human, even a pet. We are not meant to survive alone. Never, or God would have created just one human and no animals etc to compliment each other.

Some may walk about and turn up their noses at the janitor, sanitation workers, cleaners, or jobs that the average person looks down upon but we all need their services or their country will have health and sanitation problem, everyone is important and provides an essential service we all depend on.

No man is an island; studying the existence of the animal kingdom and the plant kingdom and us; the human kingdom; all are essential for survival. Plants are not only there to make up a number and beautify or animals are not there for only food. Plants have life and are healing. The animal kingdom is important as it teaches us a whole lot. Do you see the power of what domesticated animals do to human minds/thinking/psychology,

how powerful our bond is to them that they are actually healing to us. Watching at animal TV shows and I’m amazed at how they exist even among their species, it’s amazing – their instinct, their fight for survival, the way they care for their young and for each other – the lessons are tremendous.

I learn to co-exist with them as long as they don’t harm me – my son has now named all the lizards that visit and ’sit’ in the patio and I think they have realized that they are welcomed so they have now made themselves very comfortable in our company:)

There are those who feel life is about hiding in their own world and don’t share anything with others, probably the needy and underprivileged. They will live their glorious lives, everything to eat and drink, and yes some are considered blessings, but when you are blessed it’s because it’s also meant to let you know that you have enough to share. That’s what blessings are meant to be, it means I have been given a special privilege maybe something that someone else doesn’t have.

Let us try to live with each other in harmony. There will always be others trying to steal your joy; your inner peace but never bend to them or you’d become like them – I watch people trying so hard to live extravagant lives while they are not happy/bankrupt inside, their happiness depends on material worth, watch what happens when disaster strikes, you lose everything – all that’s left is your sanity (sometimes) – your will to go on. It’s ok to be wealthy but being wealthy and selfish is bad because we all need each other to survive whether through companionship or service to each other.

Aim for the best but don’t get too lost in your aims – most are material and can be taken away from you – try to make a difference instead – concentrate on recreating you positively and probably in so doing you have helped someone as well.

Next time you say that you are independent to someone, think hard because chances are you may just need their services/hand later on in life. You can never tell. Life is funny and sometimes never gives us warning.

I love you heaps

This note is a follow-up to my poem ‘Our Dependency”…

Written by Donique C. Perez Copyrighted 2010/01/25 All Rights Reserved

SURRENDERING TO YOUR PARTNER—–Taking/giving what is ‘rightfully” due to your partner?

I’ve always wondered why is it that some (mostly men) think it is not wrong for a wife to give in/surrender forcefully to his sexual demands; remember I didn’t write the word ‘obligations’, whether she wants to or not because she’s his wife. Therefore a man is assume to not rape his wife – why? because she’s his property? The man who does that, needs a conscience.

Many women can decide to not give in to her man/husband’s sexual advances/demands simply because she’s not well (oh yes and some are good at faking:), she’s not in the mood; her rights, his infidelity; a very valid reason and so many more. Mind you same for the man because there can be some very demanding women/wives who are very sexual/sensual just like the male:)

I do have a problem, and a very big one where it is said by many partners that as long as you are married, one can not be raped; they call it surrendering/taking/giving what is ‘rightfully” due to the other partner. I see it as going against my wish, my self-esteem and self-respect and respect for you. It violates me as a human being.

Sorry, but this doesn’t write good in my book, the person who does such to their partner doesn’t respect that person’s right to be respected; their emotions. That is emotional abuse and scarring, if I am ‘raped’ (didn’t surrender lovingly) by my husband, he’ll totally turn me off. Mind you, there are some women who like to be teased/coerced or you’ll never be able to get your way with them.

You see as long as a man gets his fix, he doesn’t think that you are as sick as they assume you to be– Some guys will say that whether they are sick or not, that part of their anatomy is never sick:), unlike a woman, every part of her breaks down because we are emotional beings and it plays on her Psyche – or it will be, ‘lie down and play dead all the way’:))

I am trying to keep it real – because it’s been tugging at my mind, how can someone think of getting it on with his/her spouse when he/she doesn’t feel like it, and in the end believing it’s ok to abuse her feelings by his/her demands, whether or not she has consented to having sex with him – whether through laws or the like? The difference with most men is, it’s ‘harder’ to rape a man (no pun intended) because his Psyche when he’s not in the mood will deter that, his mechanism will not allow that:) although to some men it’s never a problem to them.

There are many partners who face that dilemma in relationships mainly women, the husband has his way with you while he strays as well. There are some spiteful women who will restrain sex from her spouse for spiteful reasons simply because she can; hence the good man will turn to cheating rather than forcing her to comply /meet his needs. Truthfully there are some women who like to be forced lovingly/rough love/sex than to wait or go with the flow – they are just not the type who plan romance.

There is something call conscience, though many do not use it when it comes to sexual yearnings, it’s a matter of by any means necessary.

I’ll be damned if my partner, assume because we are married that he can ‘take’ me whenever he feels like. Sex is suppose to be mutual consent between two adults, in fact no words should be whispered, it should be feelings expressed by two adults reading each others mind without words:), and sometimes more exciting if one is spontaneous:) though sometimes if you are not in the mood but if he lovingly persuades/entices/ you, he may just win/have his way with you but don’t simply assume because I’m your wife/woman you can jump on me like I see most animals do..In fact, I’ve noticed even with the male animals, after a while if the female pays them no attention they forget about it until and try again later:)

On the contrary, I must remind you that a person can take so much torture(sexually starved), after many days/weeks/months sometimes years of effort and you deliberately keep his/her ‘candy’ from him/her, all hell may break loose. Yet I don’t see the reason for ‘rape’ of one’s spouse. Sometimes we have to learn our partners and know when it’s time to lay low and know when to rise( no pun intended here again:). There are partners who are cold-hearted and would intentionally hold back intimacy from their partner – the ‘I would, if you only do as I say or ask’ – those kids games; sometimes the only way one can win them over or get them to change their mind is to bribe them out of it.

Each man to his own in playing their games, to some that is violation and abuse of her emotionally, yet to another it’s ok and fun to them and the rights they allow their partners.

I say – know your worth.

I was just thinking..a little bit aloud today–soul kinda whisper with a louder echo than normal, hence the write up on this

Donique C. Perez Copyrighted 2010/01/21 All Rights Reserved

OUR DEPENDENCY

Are you independent?
Are we really independent?
Cause we need each other to survive
To co-exist or humanity will cease to exist
Because I need you to survive
These daily harsh insurrections
Created by our own interventions

Are you independent?
Are we really independent?
I need you to guide me and lead me
To a path, my path even a path to my solitude
Where I can find my fortitude,
To change my attitude
Yet I still need for you to echo for me
That life is not that bad
And is not that hard
And that I am not alone
That we are not alone
We have to come together
As sisters and brothers
We are not independent of each other
And need to be co-existent
To survive our existence

Are you independent?
Are we really independent?
I watch passers-by move swiftly on
As though life is such a mystery
To some everything is about rivalry
Their existence is part of the system
And their insistence that they can survive
Without co-existence and remain in their world
Only to realize they can’t exist without co-existing
With all inhabitants within our environment
Entwined with interdependency
In everything that you see

Are you independent?
Are we really independent?
No man can stand alone
Or my Creator would have created just one human
And not created woman, another human
Nor the plants and animal kingdom,
To continue our dependence on one another
To compliment each other
And appreciate its wonder
Together in harmony,
In synchronicity

Are we independent?
Are you independent?
Because life with no one will become non-existent
I’m happy to know you, to exist with you
So happy that you are part of my existence
So happy to be part of your existence

WE ARE NOT INDEPENDENT—–We are dependent

Donique C. Perez 2010/01/19 All Rights Reserved

DOES YOUR MATERIAL STATUS AND RANK IN LIFE DETERMINE YOU?

This is a year of transformation and awakening, every year is. Life to me is not only about how much I earn, how wealthy I am or status in life or how powerful you are but how pure and great your soul is because that’s all you’ll have left behind when you leave this earth, a beautiful aura and heirloom/legacy for others. The earth is for our physical comforts. Make a difference while you’re here to help someone to be better.

Wealth nor money does not determine you, it’s your soul/heart that does, never use the excuse that because you don’t have ( money, position, authority etc) that you can’t help someone, it creates our illusion in our minds assuming that if we are not happy materially/financially how can we be of help to someone?

Society brain washed us into thinking if you don’t have, you are worthless and so we live our lives limiting our potentials because in our mind we are not worthy compare to the ‘rich’ man therefore no matter what you do, you can’t match up to them.

Forget about matching up to others, I don’t live my life matching up to any one but to bring out the best in me and can find in me, to be positive to others and bringing out the best in themselves as well..

Release your true potential, that rich person may just need you to empower him, with all the wealth he has may be just an egotistic thing; his show of being powerful but inside he may be a shallow person who needs really empowering holistically because he may be a rich yet mean person who gloats on his wealth and need to learn that everything for a time, the only thing that stays is the beautiful aura one leaves behind in departing this planet, nothing more; every thing else is immaterial; like smoke it dissipates.

You need not be wealthy to be able to help someone improve their lives – release that grandeur illusion that wealth determines you. I don’t want to be rich if I can’t help someone besides family with my wealth– everything is for a time—for our earthly comfort- likewise I am not wealthy but I am capable to uplift others by inspiring them in their journey through life, this to me makes me wealthy:) not materially but I can empower someone to be better and believe in themselves which may also lead them to be wealthy materially as well.

Stop judging yourself on what you have not achieved materially; your worth materially, everything is temporary and for your temporary comfort – it can be taken from you in an instant because it’s material.

Find your Inner Peace; no one can take away your Inner Peace even if they are loud, boisterous, pestering, negative because it’s in dwelling in you. It’s something that lives in you, your permanent comfort. Try developing that in you and you are eternally happy, everything that happens around you won’t make you mad because you have Inner Peace and can share it with the world

Why be successful and only keep your success to yourself? – some walk about as very successful people yet very selfish because everything we may do is for our selfish needs, it’s rule of thumb– one will always remain poor because they don’t have the capability – education-wise, socially etc.

Truthfully, I am creating a future for my son and my family, not necessarily me, because I find happiness in making others happy- it’s not about having all my hearts desires, while someone else close to me may be struggling.

I was recently standing by the sink doing the dishes and it occurred to me that everything I may be beating myself about is really my temporal comfort, raw temporary comfort and we get all worked up over these things that we worry and make even our health screwed up from those stresses, because in order to survive comfortable in this world one must have or you are looked down upon.

I just can’t think that way, funny enough what you think brings back and sends back positive happening for you and there are times people will say what you do, may not return in your lifetime but your kids reap the benefits, nothing goes unnoticed the universe/God is paying attention.

You may be receiving snit-bits here and there but because you are looking for the big pay-off you may not see it, but whatever good you do in this life time, it’s returned to you in your lifetime little by little slowly through/to your extension; family.

Sometimes one assume they are lucky – there is no luck – you are reaping the benefits of a good deed done sometime ago, may not be by you but your fore parents or the like. Think about it. Ever see wicked people reaping harvest they never planted? just probably some past good deed their family did passed down to them–it’s meant to teach them something positive and may just change them/thinking.

Many may think it’s hard to share with others because they worked hard for it—your thoughts determine that – our school of thought which we grew up believing so, we turn up our noses and refuse to help – and yes there are times you must help others get to their feet and gradually let them go to stand up tall on their own.

Helping someone while empowering them to better themselves; you give him a net and teach him how to catch fish. Sometimes people believe that if they start helping someone that person will always be begging them and never will look for themselves, yes some do but when you help you must also encourage them to continue looking for themselves because you have given them a push start to their future.

We rather see people struggling than see them rise because it’s all about I am more powerful and wealthier than you, the ‘looking down on’ mentality and it happens even within families ..Life to many is about pride; the have and have-nots. We are going to depart this earth, both have and have nots; and both leave without anything.

When you die you die poor, everyone; you leave with nothing. You give back to the universe while alive by helping others grow holistically, when you depart this world you would have made it richer with your contribution than you had met it. Live your life giving back to the Universe.

Be happy while here and it not about wealth and status. It’s about creating a difference in others lives; the world, in whatever little way you can and sometimes you may assume you are not contributing but anything you do positive you’ve contributed. Don’t dwell ‘vainfully’ on personal wealth ( material) as it takes away the genuine connection to what you may want to do positively in helping others. Being mindful also that your wealth may be able to assist someone to become better but most keep it to themselves and never give back.

How much you earn/worth means nothing to me in my eyes, I look for the gold in your heart and not the gold in your hand. We all will depart this earth at sometime, be sure to leave back a legacy- one that can empower others to empower others; a positive cycle. That is true happiness to me – a state of mind not based only on material wealth and comforts but having given back positively to the Universe to make here a better place to be than when you had entered here.

Does your material and financial status determine your worth and rank in life? Mine don’t, I am rich, very, very rich….

I love you

Donique C. Perez 2010/01/18 All Rights Reserved

IT IS A WAKE UP CALL —Facing the fire – Disasters know no Color, Creed, Race, nor Religion

In the wake of the Haitian tragedy which has touched me tremendously, I stopped and take stock of everything around me; my life; my intentions; my plans; my dreams and my material illusions which are temporarily cushioning my life– so many lives lost– so many plans made not fulfilled – that were not to be fulfilled- so many words unspoken because tomorrow you may have thought you have another chance to make wrong, right.

We wake up every morning and assume all our plans for the future will come to fruition, so we dwell on tomorrow, nothing is wrong in the hope of another day; tomorrow, but it is not promised to you, it’s simply a hope. Like all promise, it can be broken.

I became so absorbed into the happenings in Haiti, though I don’t know any Haitians personally except through networking with friends but somehow I was drawn emotionally and became entangled with my emotions that I was literally feeling their anguish and at one time I had to detach myself because emotionally I became drained that every time I watched the news, I cried. I had to re-fuel myself with other positive happenings to simply move on.

As I watched the daily happenings in Haiti, I was reminded of all those other homeless people all around the world who have and are going through life’s daily grind; some created their situation, some were drawn into it by bad decisions in life (a very hard lesson). Yet as human beings, some tend to overlook these people, prejudge them, though most are a result of terrible lifestyles, chances are we may have turned a blind eye to their situation and it got worse and went spiraling down and equal chance they cared not to be helped.

We can’t save the world but we can try by helping one person at a time to make someone better and the world a better place. The reality is when you help others to be better, you are not only empowering them holistically for their own good but you are also helping them become a better and productive citizen of the world.

I am an emotional being, we all are, some more than the other, so things of that nature that is so intense, will swallow me. Compassion knows no color, creed or race and sometimes I wish God made me stronger but He knows why. I’d been through death in my family and never became so overwhelmed probably because I celebrated the lives of my loved ones who I grew up with and knew fondly, so it was easier, strangely enough when we come to the realization what life is all about and the joy and sadness it can bring, you tend to balance your perspective to keep your head level.

Wish I could have done the same in this instance here but it was/is calamity at surmounting proportion I was dealing with at that time. One can never be ready for a situation like this, no matter how prepared one may be psychologically, the reality of what is before your eyes bends you – even the hard-hearted ones will; the powerful, everyone will drop to their knees.

I’d seen Journalists giving the TV News or relating the News and couldn’t control themselves,; they were in tears. There have been worst catastrophes with more damages than I am seeing now but something about this tragedy has the world at stand still; spiritually awakening them. Some people are doing their utmost best to help and doing so willingly and with heartfelt compassion – I am seeing the spirit of compassion, kindness, tolerance and love released in proportional amounts.

Unconditional love has no barrier – it knows no boundaries–2010 has just come and it has released some terrible news and happenings on us but it has also opened a door-way for a spiritual awakening/love vibrations/energies unconditionally; where heads and hearts will gather together to reach out to each other regardless of race, creed or class because when disaster strikes, it knows none of these labels which most created in their minds; it affects everyone who is ‘connected’ on this earth; we automatically are united and become our brother’s keepers because I believe we are all one; fighting for the same cause and for the ultimate solution, that is, Love and living in harmony as one.

We must come together as one – as it was intended – to make this world a better place to live – our ultimate Heaven on earth. Yes we can, Heaven is a state of mind; same as happiness. Therefore, I perceive Heaven to be here but mankind has messed it up with their selfishness and greed. Now it’s time to come together as one and clean it up and create our new Heaven here; in our hearts, thoughts and right here in this home we call Earth..

I love you

Donique C. Perez 2010/01/17 All Rights Reserved

THEY ARE THE FUTURE – MENTORING THOSE FORGOTTEN KIDS—They still stand a chance

My heart breaks for the youths of the world; our future generation, especially those who weren’t raise with strong male influences and still carry a deep bitter feeling in their hearts silently and act it out later on in life. Some act it out with others and sometimes on members of the opposite sex and there are some who didn’t have male influence yet turned out to be great men and fathers but nothing can ever replace the male bonding that is required in a kids life as intended from creation. The disciplining, mentoring and teaching are important for the child’s holistic development.

So many kids are remnants of society and it’s our right to nurture them; it’s our ultimate rights to do our very best and guide them. So many grow up daily in broken homes creating havoc in their minds/life. They became slave and recipients to/of our transgressions.

I hurt and hurt real deeply when I see those innocent eyes of young kids with no guidance and left to fall through the crack, starting education-wise, socially and psychologically and many try to cope by turning to drugs to stifle their commotions within.

Some are experimental, while some are barely fighting to survive. Psychologically they are scarred daily by the happenings around them; their homes, community and by society and some may say they have lots of opportunities available to them and some are not taking advantage of those opportunities to make them better.

It starts with the mindset of an individual to make that change. No matter what opportunities are open to someone, if their minds are messed up it can not be of help to them. We must nurture their minds; counsel/mentor them into positive individuals even though they may have their strange or peculiar way about them, we all do but that’s what make them different and unique.

There are some who may say, no matter how hard you may try with some kids, they simply can’t/won’t change but you should never, ever give up on kids – They can be bent as long as they are kids – we must mold them positively from baby to adulthood. Remember what you have taught a kid from youth and if she/he should stray from it, I believe there is something lying in their subconscious that always brings them back when they stray although some self-destruct but something silently lies in their mind and probably waiting for someone to lead them back.

Our positive to them may not always seem positive to them but it may seem as our way to control them. Communication of feelings is so important, very important. So many times we believe because we are the adults that kids need to simply do what you say without questioning why. These kids won’t do anything unless there is a reason behind your why. Kids are experimental, that’s how they prefer to grow and learn. Some kids hate being sheltered, they’ll rebel and there goes a full dose of poison; you may have now poisoned their minds when you try to control them.

They don’t believe in a lot of things that we believe in – Principles will always be principles but their notion/understanding of life, is trying and learning by mistakes even if they fail or get hurt in the process and not being told this is wrong or this is right – they are the ‘dare you’ kinds; very experimental. Truthfully sometimes they prove us wrong by doing differently and make us smile.

Everybody is into themselves; minding their business. Some kids nowadays will disrespect you if you correct them, yet I believe it’s their upbringing and influence. Oh yes it hurts because I am seeing all these young minds; boys and girls, coming from broken homes, single families and most are influenced and scarred psychologically by what they grew up in, unless someone else pays attention and mentors them and let them know they are worthy, they will live their life aimlessly, believing they are not worthy. Mind you, there are some who grew up with love and a stable homes, and probably too sheltered and are now rebellious young adults and into all sorts of crimes etc.

Why not mentor them; big sister, big brother. Kids will always have their own style, fashion and different way of thinking; it’s their trademark and sometimes all it takes is learning to understand them, they may seem complicated but their minds are in fast forward, that’s how they think.

I really don’t believe they are meant to be rude and disrespectful to our ‘pattern of thoughts’/philosophy but they are looking through life through a different pair of eyes and different way of thinking, their brains are in fast forward, just like how we get modern inventions everyday – same with these new generation – the improved version, though some may not think so because some degrade societal cultures, principles etc. and yes we must grab them when they stray too far and lead them back.

Their real frustration lies when we bend them to a 1880 era when they are a 2000 breed of kids; a new generation of thinkers hence the reason we must depart this world after a time, even though we may leave rules behind, there’s no sure way we’ll know if it’s kept and adhered to, they are sure going to develop theirs because every generation is different. The point however is to always leave behind in your trai,l an essence that is pleasing to follow.

I really won’t want to be here to witness the future generation because we really can’t/won’t be able to deal/handle them not because we didn’t/couldn’t control this one now but because they are going to be completely different to us – believe it or not – we are here in a time where we can deal with things as they are now – every generation makes room for those suited to handle them – meaning to say that my son’s generation will be able to cope better with his kids generation than me coping with them – that’s why we expire after a time – life cycle finishes or we’d be insane people trying hard to control everything when life is cyclic.

I remember reminding an elderly lady some time ago when she couldn’t understand why this new breed of kids are so different and said the same to her that life is all about adapting to changes – you adapt; doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll accept the new way – it’s your choice but you can’t be going crazy with what kids do nowadays – because they will still be enjoying their lives when we are gone; the rule makers – we may try hard to keep a system of things the way it was handed down to us from generation but nothing is constant, nothing can grow if one remains constant and it will come a time when everyone of us has to leave this earth and make room for the new and younger head/ mind. That’s the way it is; that’s life.

We have a new bred of thinkers and doers. Listen to them and you’d be amazed of the knowledge these young minds possess and how they understand life to be – it’s shocking yet true.. Still we can’t give up on them but surely guide them off the wrong path.

Mentor them – and it doesn’t always mean bending them to our way – but trying to understand their way of thinking and leading/guiding them on the right path – their buddy; someone they are not afraid to talk to and are able to discuss any thing/topic with, without making them feel stupid and weird.

It’s a hard road but we must walk it with them or they’ll self-destruct. My little son is teaching me a whole lot – kids are part of our lessons in life. Funny enough we tend to believe we are the teacher but trust me, they have taught me a lot and I am still learning.

I love you.

Written by Donique C. Perez Copyright 2010/01/08 All Rights Reserved