Have you ever tried helping someone out instead they turned around and robbed or ripped you off. It happens everyday. You decide on hiring that person to do a job for you because you rather give that business to them; friend helps out friends. Sometimes in doing so, you expect them to at least give you a discount on that job, instead that person priced the job higher than the real cost.
There are people who will smile with you yet do not want you to be successful probably because of envy, jealousy or downright hatefulness.
There may be a job opening and that person knows of it and will not let you know although you are desperately looking for a job. Someone told me of that experience where their friend, applied for a job at a particular place of business.
She applied there also through another ‘heads up’ regarding that opening. Anyhow, she was successful and when she started work, to her surprise that friend was seated at the reception desk. Though she applied for a different position.
It tells you that people are simply selfish. No way the girl would have sabotage her chances of getting a job there, because they had different qualifications. Sometimes others assume that you don’t deserve positions and status in life.
The truth is, the lady needed that job so much more than her as she had kids and a mortgage to pay. I guess some people take pride in seeing another crawl or suffer.
Why do people find it difficult to empower others positively to wish them well/success. Is it because they’re afraid that they will take that empowerment and use it against them.
One should never feel intimidated by another or feel small if another lets them down and you may encounter many episodes of that in your lifetime but you must tarry on my friend.
Be self-confident that you have what it takes to be successful in life and even if you won’t be as successful as someone else, you work at being the best you can be
Stand ‘tall’ at all times in your heart and spirit. No one can belittle you, if you believe in yourself and ability, if you allow them to by dwelling on it, it’s because you gave them that power. I like to see others successful in their endeavors.
I remembered a gentleman who was building a new home, decided to choose a few friends who are builders; self-employed people, and decided to give them the job instead of hiring another professional contractor.
Those guys did a perfect job in the end but what they also did was lingered/dragged out that job so that he spends more money, when he was finished he had to refinance that loan to build the same house another contractor would have charged for the money in hand but because he liked to see the money spread among friends who he knew could have also done a great job as the contractor, he gave them the job. Instead he got ripped off by his so-called friends.
Most people are walking around with vindictive feeling in their hearts and innocently you are caught in their greed and selfishness.
Some assume if they help you, they will be doing you a favor and that favor may be too good for you because it will make you better and empower you therefore they won’t do it and rather see you struggle to find your way.
Those you would prefer they not help you as they will always remind you of that favor until they you/they die. Instead of doing things from your heart, people do and expect to be forever be indebted to them.
I hate to hear people say, ‘if it wasn’t because of them, someone won’t have made it’. You know what, check yourself, if you are successful now, check the circumstance, person, determining factors that may have created your success in life now.
Everyone got some sort of motivation in life to get to success – something/one may have determined your success – some it was handed down to them, some work without any encouragement, but their mindset was their motivator – something influenced them – whichever way one look at it.
Whenever I help someone it’s because I want to and they are not indebted to me unless it was an agreement of financial payment otherwise we have to learn to do good for others and do from the heart because you simply can. Everything needs not have a price on/to it, simply do because your heart tells you so and it’s done in/with the kindred spirit.
Those who are Christians and believe Christ paid a price for you.Therefore nothing in life is free, Jesus paid that price. So when someone does some good deed for you, it sometimes can be passed on automatic as a price has been paid for it long ago. Ain’t? So why do some Christians find it difficult to help someone genuinely without all these expectations and having people indebted to them for life. We are here to compliment, share, encourage and help each other and if we do so with an open heart, the world will become such a happier place to live in.
When you give, expect nothing in return, with a giving heart and see it as already paid for therefore no one owes you anything but simple gratitude but never indebtedness.
Written by Donique C. Perez Copyrighted 2009/12/12 All rights reserved
