In my quest to resolve a pressuring problem, I had to detach myself from the problem in order to even identify the problem since it was a problem I kept sweeping under the carpet, believing it will work itself out. While you remained engrossed in it, you can never solve it. You must detach to solve it. The quicker you do, you’ll find solutions and success. It’s not running away from it but simply detaching to resolve.
I needed to detach myself and put myself aside, and look at the problem from another angle; the eagle view perspective; the angle of me as an outsider looking in on the problem. That’s what you must do at all times to solve most problems, as long as you remain attached to that problem it will elude you; you have to get out of that problem by detaching yourself from it, and that way you remove yourself from the chaos of what is enveloping you and become aside from that problem or else you’ll become more entangled in it and make very rash decisions.
Sometimes, it may take someone else to help you see and acknowledge the problem which you keep sweeping under the carpet and allowing it to become heaped. You can’t walk over it, you can’t keep sweeping more but instead sweep it clean and even sanitize the area.
A pressing problem I kept doing same to over and over, telling myself I can deal with it, until an eagle eye view perspective screened in on me and saw all the heaped dust under my carpet, the one I kept saying no one will notice, I’ll clean it one day, while I kept tripping on that heap every time I passed over it, rhetorically speaking. I enabled the problem, it never was being cleaned but continued to be heaped until some dust kept flying back in my face, until it stifled me and I no longer can keep sweeping but do a complete cleaning and sanitizing of that area of my life…
When you are faced with tough situations/problems; some you may simply shrug shoulders at, some you may panic and cower down, but you must deal with, no matter what, and sometimes it takes the ‘outsider looking in view’; where you give it an eagle eye overview and scrutinize it from afar, and come up with solutions…you must detach from it to solve it or it will swallow you…
If we allow our ego to rule us, we’ll never solve anything. As long as we are disciplined in detaching; detaching from even yourself; the ego, and look at things at/from a different perspective and level, solutions will come easily…what we create in our minds; our exaggerated thought/feelings become our reality which create also exaggerated solutions which may not be the best solutions but based on fly by thoughts.
Sometimes you have to literally come out of the/your ego; loose it, your exaggerated thoughts/feelings and detach from it to find solutions. That way you can even acknowledge the problem since most live in denial of the problem….whatever it may be….Sometimes, you are the problem, and may have created the problem by not acknowledging that there is/was a problem.
Here’s to happy ending to whatever pressing problems you may be facing at this moment. Detach and have an eagle eye overview of that problem, you may even discover that you may be the culprit who enabled the problem..
Work diligently at whatever it is and come up with solutions..
Donique C. Perez 2011/06/14 All rights reserved
